How to Tell If a Male Coworker Likes You or Is Just Being Friendly

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Wondering how to tell if a male coworker likes you or is just being friendly? It seems that every woman has had a similar thought at some point in her career, whether because she was secretly harboring a crush, too, or because she wanted to know if she needed more boundaries.

Fortunately, figuring out a coworker’s feelings isn’t that difficult, as men are usually somewhat easy to read. Yes, they can be a bit stand-offish and may play hard to get at times. Despite that, their body language and general eagerness to impress or make their crush happy should reveal all their secrets.

He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not: How to Tell If a Male Coworker Likes You or Is Just Being Friendly

#1. His Voice Will Change…

If you’re looking into how to tell if a male coworker likes you or is just being friendly, you should start by checking if his voice changes when you’re around. In general, men have deeper voices that usually have an icy undertone at the office, especially if they’re ordering people around. This might be their friendly office tone as well. But in front of the ladies they like, it’s not uncommon for their voices to go higher in pitch due to nervousness or excitement.

Keep in mind that this won’t happen to all men; if the coworker in question has lots of experience, he might be able to play it cool until he’s ready to confess his feelings. On the other hand, falling for someone can change people. If you’ve dazzled him, even a real player might have a hard time taming the excitement in his voice and stopping it from going higher when talking to you.

#2. …And So Might His Posture!

Your coworker’s posture may also change when he’s around you, as he wants to seem confident, healthy, and thriving. Slouching is rarely a thing of beauty; instead, it can actually put some people off as it makes them seem like they don’t care about how they look.

Naturally, when someone doesn’t care much about the person in front of them, they might slouch all the time. Even if your coworkers are friendly toward you, there isn’t a reason for them not to slouch to appear more confident.

If your coworker likes you, though, he may keep his back straight, his shoulders square, and his head up. The broader he seems, the less likely you’ll be able to look over him. Plus, by standing near you and somewhat closing you off from everyone else around you with his body, you two might connect better.

#3. The Staring Will Be Pretty Obvious

Not sure how to tell if a male coworker likes you or is just being friendly? Take a good look at his eyes and try to figure out if he’s staring more than usual.

In general, if a guy likes a girl, he will try to maintain eye contact as much as possible. On top of that, whenever their eyes don’t meet, he will proceed to check her out; he’ll stare at her, taking in all the beauty with each glance. That doesn’t happen if someone is just friendly!

The problem with this is that it may come off a bit creepy if you’re not into your coworker. If you like him back, though, you may feel yourself blushing as his eyes brush over your every feature. But don’t be shy and avert your eyes — try to catch his glance and give him a reassuring smile!

#4. The Compliments Will Be Aplenty

Don’t be surprised if your coworker is so friendly every day that he compliments you whenever appropriate. Did you fix the copy machine or get lots of praise on your latest project? A good coworker will want you to know that he supports you 100%, so he’ll drop a few compliments here and there.

But if he really likes you, he’ll take it up a notch and make sure you get a compliment every day, even if it’s completely unwarranted. It can be about anything at all — how gorgeous you look that day, how fabulous your outfit is, etc. Expect your looks to dazzle him and make him drop a few comments about your new hairdo, your eyes, etc., when you least expect them.

#5. He Might Become Very Nervous Around You

Naturally, some men aren’t able to keep their cool in front of the women they like, so if your coworker likes you, he may become rather nervous around you.

He might seem more clumsy than usual, always dropping things when your eyes meet or when he’s passing your desk. Alternatively, his conversational skills may take a hit; he might bumble his words while trying to stay cool and impress you at the same time!

Sometimes, this may point to social anxiety too, so it may not even mean that your coworker likes you. But if that were the case, he’d probably avoid you altogether or simply maintain a cool but friendly demeanor.

Apart from bumbling words, expect your coworker to start sweating around you as well. That may happen during each conversation, but especially if he’s rambling on about something you may not be interested in.

#6. He’s Somehow Always Around

Still not sure how to tell if a male coworker likes you or is just being friendly? Well, do pay attention to how much time you’re spending together. Even better, consider if he has been trying to somehow always be around you.

When a man likes a woman, he may want to keep her close so that she doesn’t go off and fall in love with someone else. Alternatively, he may want to be around you in order to get to know you better and make sure you always have him on your mind.

Whatever the underlying reason may be, your coworker may intentionally bring you two together at the office, whether for a meeting, a project, or a coffee break, to catch another glance of you. That’s a clear sign he might be looking to make your relationship a lot friendlier than it already is!

#7. He Shows Interest In You — Yes, All of You!

And while examining how much time you guys are spending together, consider how he acts while talking to you. Are you always somehow leading the conversation, or is he asking all these questions and showing real interest?

Unless they are downright narcissists, guys usually want women to talk about themselves. That’s one of the easiest ways to get to know them better, after all, especially if a woman is open to sharing her life with them. But they will show major interest by actually asking decent questions and inquiring about their childhood, early adulthood, what they did before this job, etc.

If your coworker isn’t asking any questions and just lets you do all the talking, he might be fine with just being office friends. However, if the questions keep on coming, he’s likely trying to soak up all this knowledge about you so that he can use it at the right moment to woo you!

#8. He’s Smiling at You All the Time

If you’re wondering how to tell if a male coworker likes you or is just being friendly — the answer may very well be in his smile.

Most people don’t usually smile at those they don’t like. In fact, they are far more likely to keep a scowl on when they’re annoyed by someone. If they’re only friendly, the smile won’t be so apparent; you might get a half-smile here and there, and a full smile only when they’re having a fantastic day.

If your coworker has taken smiling to a whole new level, though, and always has a set of pearly whites to show off for you, that may be a sign he wants to be more than work buddies. In most cases, your coworker will keep smiling at you even when you haven’t said anything funny, or you’re merely…existing in front of him. He probably cannot help it, as the sheer thought of you makes his insides tense up.

#9. He Wants to Help You

When someone likes you, they don’t want to make your life harder for you — not if their feelings are genuine. Therefore, if your coworker is always eager to help you out, he might be harboring some secret romantic feelings.

Of course, he might just be an inherently good, friendly person. However, not everyone has the time to keep helping their coworkers all the time.

Perhaps his love language is helping those he cares about. He might not want to see you suffer at work, especially if you’re fighting some angry coworkers or working on hard projects. Alternatively, he might want to be around you, so he volunteers to help with anything you may need. Either way, he’s spending time with you, which may be his ultimate goal!

#10. There’s Some Mirroring Too

Not so sure how to tell if a male coworker likes you or is just being friendly on a daily basis? Consider his behavior around you and whether he is mimicking what you’re doing.

The behavior doesn’t have to be connected to attraction; your coworker might just want to be friends and is using mimicry to connect with you.

However, people usually cannot help but imitate those they’re interested in; it’s a type of behavior deeply rooted in human nature and a possible explanation of how people are able to learn through mimicry. It’s also something that happens spontaneously, so your coworker may not be able to hide it even if he tries.

#11. He Remembers Stuff About You

Those questions your coworker keeps on asking should let him learn more about you. But the real sign of infatuation here is if he remembers the stuff you have said to him.

If your coworker cares about you, he will try to use the knowledge he has on you to his advantage. That includes mentioning things you have told him and showing that he’s interested in learning more about them (and you!).

If he doesn’t remember anything, he probably only sees you as a colleague or friend and nothing more. Mind you, this includes whole bits of information, like the fact that you have a dog, not just the details.

#12. He Is Teasing You All the Time

Are you still wondering how to tell if a male coworker likes you or is just being friendly to everyone around you? Consider all those TV couples that first acted like goofy opponents and then revealed their mutual feelings. They usually teased each other, often crossing the boundaries set in place and making conversations rather risqué. At some point, that fake animosity and sarcasm turned into passion and love!

That may very well happen with you and your coworker. If he’s teasing you all the time, he might be trying to get your attention or draw out a reaction. Keep in mind that the teasing will be lighthearted, not based on pranks and physical, inappropriate teasing (like hair-pulling and similar). Those can often be more mean-spirited, so they should put you off!

Keep in mind, though, that if he teases everyone, he might just like the fun of it all. Some people have a personality that thrives on goofing around with others and lighthearted teasing!

#13. There Is Some Physical Contact

Finally, think about how much physical contact you have with your coworker on a daily basis. Is he always eager to get away from you, or are there some light touches here and there? Does it seem as if he’s always trying to find a way to be close to you so that he can tap your shoulder, squeeze your hand, wipe a speck of dust off your coat, etc.?

If the answer is yes, it could be that the behavior is completely intentional! Coworkers that are only friends (or simply friendly) don’t necessarily come in physical contact so often, and they certainly don’t seek out ways to touch more on a daily basis. Therefore, if this keeps happening, it may be a clear sign there are deeper feelings in play.

Of course, it should all be very innocent; while at the office, make sure you both are following the rules and that there is no inappropriate touching. Keep in mind that if your coworker is worth all the trouble, he won’t even try to make you uncomfortable.

Usually, physical contact that shows he’s into you boils down to goofy pushes (when he’s teasing you), light touches (he puts his hand on your back while you’re passing by), and slight brushes of hands (intentional or accidental!).

Final Thoughts

Cannot seem to figure out how to tell if a male coworker likes you or is just being friendly? These 13 telltale signs should point you in the right direction, especially if your coworker isn’t too eager to hide his feelings toward you. Now, it’s just a question of what you’re going to do about it; after all, if you like him back, he has probably noticed some of these signs in your behavior too!

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Julie Oney

Julie Oney

Julie Oney holds an award in Creative Writing and a Master’s Degree from the University of Michigan. An optimist, music lover, and full-time writer. Passionate about pets, especially puppies.
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