The road to finding Prince Charming is paved with many types of men. Some of the guys you’re going to encounter will make you feel good, while others will make you reconsider the dating game altogether. And when you encounter the latter, you want to stay as far away as possible. So, how can you do that? It’s pretty easy — look for some suggestive signs he’s a player!
Don’t worry though, you don’t have to take any guesses as to what those signs are. I’ve compiled a list of traits you should keep an eye out for, so you can avoid falling victim to his charm before it’s too late.
1. Observe How He Acts When Using His Phone
One of the easiest telltale signs he’s a player is the way he protects his phone. For instance, if he never leaves his phone unattended or makes sure you can’t see his security code, that should raise some questions. Furthermore, if he always turns his phone away when checking his messages, he’s probably hiding something.
Some guys believe that if they turn off their phone or activate the silent mode, that should keep them safe — I beg to differ. If a guy does this, chances are he’s hiding more things than you’d like to believe. It could be texts or calls with other women, or even a secret relationship he’s trying to dismiss.
When confronted about this, his response might sound something like “It’s nothing.” or “It’s not important.” In my book, that’s a clear sign he’s trying to hide something from you.
2. He Gets Late Night Calls and Texts
If the guy you’re dating is constantly bombarded with late-night calls or texts, I’m sorry to break it to you, but those are probably not from his friends. Friends know better than to text at midnight only to say goodnight!
3. You Catch Him Red-Handed
It’s all fun and games until little white lies turn into mastodons. If you caught him lying to you once, imagine how many times you didn’t catch him. A guy who is constantly blurting out lie after lie to look good cannot be someone you want in your life, trust me.
Chances are he’s hiding a lot! A guy who is not honest obviously cannot be trusted. How can you even know if he’s telling you the truth about himself?
4. He Avoids You
Every time you go out on a Saturday evening, he’s trying to find out what your plans are and where you will go. He wants to know your location so that he can avoid bumping into you. This is one of the clearest signs he’s a player, because it means one of two things. One, he’s with another woman, or two, he intends to hit on other women.
5. He Can’t Meet on Weekends
If he always has other plans on weekends, he is probably not all that interested in you. Fridays and Saturdays are some of the best nights for players to go out and woo some women. This is a red flag that he is cheating on you. He will try to meet with you only during the week, when he doesn’t have anything better to do.
6. He Spends More Hours Than You In Front of the Mirror*
*Assuming that you put some effort into chiseling your makeup or doing your hair before you go out!
When the guy you’re dating is overly attentive to the way he looks before leaving the house, it usually raises an eyebrow. Men who consider themselves available or are trying to hit on other women are very attentive with their looks. He might consider the way he looks super important, even if it’s just the two of you going out for dinner. This happens because he might still try (in his mind, at least) to hit on other women when you’re together.
7. When Other Women Are Around, He Acts Distant
This point directly relates to the previous one. For instance, you’re out shopping together, but he suddenly disappears. You find him in the next aisle, acting as if he’s interested in some totally random product, but, beside him, there is a woman doing her own shopping.
When you go over to him, he acts distant toward you, as if he barely knows you. That is a clear sign he’s a player, as he is trying to hit on others even while you are together!
8. He Gives Vague Answers and Has Many Female Friends
This might count as two signs, but they both go hand in hand so I listed them together. For players, giving direct answers might be a little difficult due to their fear of saying something incriminating.
If you asked him before whether or not he’s dating other women, but he never gave you a clear answer, that’s an answer in and of itself. Furthermore, if he has lots of female friends and meets them often, it could be a bad sign.
Usually, if he never says for sure that he hasn’t done anything with any of his female “friends,” that means there is a past (or even present) between him and one or more of them.
Final Words — Don’t Trust Players, They Never Change
The dating scene is full of guys who could potentially be The One. But when your gut tells you that something’s too good to be true, it usually is. Make sure you keep an eye out for those signs he’s a player if you don’t want to end up being another womanizer’s victim.